Have you ever noticed how the people you pass every day always seem to be locked in their own world? They’re kind of frazzled and fried? Generally pissed off at everything and anything?
Every day you pass all kinds of people doing their normal things: walking their dogs or walking their kids, jogging, on their way to work, texting, serving you in a shop, trimming the trees along the sidewalk… Just doing whatever they’re doing.
These are often the “unseen” people in your life that are working in the background: the shuttle bus driver, the barista making your coffee, the security guard who waves you into your organization’s parking lot, and everyone else you come in contact with briefly throughout your day.
There’s a great way you can “play” with these people — Smile Sniping. It’s where you look a frazzled, disconnected person straight in the eye and connect with them, powerfully and easily.
I’ve been a Smile Sniper for a while now and the reaction I get from the other person is amazing. I get to watch another human completely transform in a split second before my very eyes. They just absolutely light up! It’s as if their feet touch the ground again, and they come alive. They seem almost surprised that somebody “saw” them.
What is Smile Sniping? It’s when you look an unsuspecting, often frazzled, human being straight in the eye and SMILE directly into them.
When I say “smile INTO them” I don’t mean smile at them, throwing a smile in their general direction. Or give a fake-y smile like the type you used to paste on in school pictures. That smile is just your lips – and pretty much starts at your chin. When you smile AT someone, you’re smiling at their ear or their buttons or at their nose.
But the smile you give in a Smile Snipe… That is a smile starts from your belly button – all the way down deep in your gut – and it moves directly through your eyes into the eyes of the person you’re sniping and creates a moment of surprise connection.
The message, purpose, energy behind THAT smile is:
“Hello Fellow Human Being! I’m honored to share the planet with you.”
(Don’t worry, it’s not creepy!)
This is another person, soul, human being who is walking the planet at the same time you are. And we each have our own junk but in that split second, we connect and let that smile come from you – starting in your belly button – connect with them on a soul-to-soul level.
And Smile Sniping one of the “unseen” or “unappreciated” people in your life is a great way to have a little fun, spread a little mischief, and change somebody’s day! Including yours!
How Smile Sniping works:
1. Catch people just doing their normal thing. You don’t interrupt them, don’t speak to them to get their attention.
2. Look for their eyes. Wait patiently, quietly, trying to look the other person in the eye. They’ll feel it and they will in fact look at you. When their eyes meet yours, look them IN the eyes. As you wait, mentally separate yourself from all the hubbub of life and focus your attention on the thought, “Hi, Human. I honor you.”
THEN, .here it comes…
3. Smile into them with a smile that starts down deep in your gut. Connect to the human BEING behind all the busy and the work and the labor. If you’re close enough to exchange words: good morning, hello, etc. that’s always nice. Or wave (if in a car)
This type of smile is contagious and spreads easily. When it spreads, you get that additional energy and juice flowing back to you and you feel better for it. There is a certain “selfish element” to Smile Sniping! But if I’m feeling down or grumpy or off, a day when everything isn’t sunshine and roses,
THAT’S the day I smile snipe somebody. I instantly start to feel better.
When my partner’s mother was in the late stages of Alzheimer’s, the last time we went to visit her, she didn’t recognize him. Even though we knew this moment was coming, it still deeply bothered him that his own mother didn’t recognize him.
Toward the end of our visit, he crouched down and made eye contact with her; connecting with her as a human being – eye-to-eye, truly looking into her soul. In that moment, when he smiled at her and called her Mom, in that split second you could see the flash of knowing him… of connection. It was the last bridge to her human soul.
Since then, I’ve started to use this type of conscious smiling in my professional life. For example, are you in a challenging meeting? Smile snipe the participants. Are you annoyed with your boss? Smile snipe her. Is there friction between you and a co-worker? Smile snipe him on the way to the coffee pot.
So I challenge you to have some mischief in your life: become part of the Smile Sniper Brigade and share the soul-to-soul connection that smiling INTO (not at) someone can bring.
Tell me what happened next. Trust me. You will be surprised at the results!